irvine_home_owner_IHB
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I know this might be a hot topic for some but it seems to me (or maybe it's just me), that most of my generation had kids later than my parents' generation.
While that may signal more responsibility or preparedness before starting a family, I also feels that detracts from being able to enjoy your children while you're still mentally and physically able to. Like I could play basketball with my dad when I was teenager and in my twenties... but I doubt I'll be able to do that with my kid.
Maybe people get married later nowadays, maybe people want to be more financially secure or maybe life just gets in the way and we have kids later than earlier.
I guess for me, I wish we would have had kids earlier. There were a myriad of reasons why, but looking back... none really seemed good enough compared to the fact that I won't be as young as my parents were when my kids grow up. And... even more so, their grandparents may not even be around when they get to become adults.
If I had a time-machine... I think mid-25s would be ideal but I also realize that you may not have your careers or financials set by that time. I guess it's because I enjoy my children so much that I wish I was younger so I had more "time" to spend with them. When my younger friends ask me if they should wait or not... I always tell them to have them as soon as they can. Raising a family has its challenges and hardships but I think you're better equipped to handle them when you're younger... and the rewards far outweigh the cons.
What are your opinions?
While that may signal more responsibility or preparedness before starting a family, I also feels that detracts from being able to enjoy your children while you're still mentally and physically able to. Like I could play basketball with my dad when I was teenager and in my twenties... but I doubt I'll be able to do that with my kid.
Maybe people get married later nowadays, maybe people want to be more financially secure or maybe life just gets in the way and we have kids later than earlier.
I guess for me, I wish we would have had kids earlier. There were a myriad of reasons why, but looking back... none really seemed good enough compared to the fact that I won't be as young as my parents were when my kids grow up. And... even more so, their grandparents may not even be around when they get to become adults.
If I had a time-machine... I think mid-25s would be ideal but I also realize that you may not have your careers or financials set by that time. I guess it's because I enjoy my children so much that I wish I was younger so I had more "time" to spend with them. When my younger friends ask me if they should wait or not... I always tell them to have them as soon as they can. Raising a family has its challenges and hardships but I think you're better equipped to handle them when you're younger... and the rewards far outweigh the cons.
What are your opinions?