Ditto. One of the reasons it took me so long to meet my husband is that I had no intention of having children. And actually, my father had a lot to do with shaping my view of the world in my formative years. He was an absolute bigot and and the things he said started turning my stomach by the time I was 10 years old. I really didn’t want a society like the one he believed in and I’m glad that we aren’t preserving the society he believed in.
Step, I understand completely. I was raised by bigots and racists. I recall having a "special" tee shirt that I could only wear inside the house....and I recall feeling very privileged to do so. Want to know what it was ? A KKK tee shirt.
No kidding.
My father brought them home for my brother and I when I was about 7 years old. He also taught us how to do the, "Heil Hitler" salute. My brother had a huge Nazi flag up in his bedroom when I was in high school.
Perhaps this helps you understand why my parents kicked me out at 17, why we really don't see eye to eye to this day, and why my brother and I don't speak.
It's called learned intolerance.
Parents, don't let my situation repeat itself in your family. You will never be able to recover from it......take it from one who knows.