*snip from the Ward Connerly article, thx for posting Eva.
But then, in 1996, I received a call from a group of UC faculty and staff members who wanted to discuss with me the issue of domestic-partner benefits. I agreed to meet. What I learned, but should have known, totally changed my perspective.
Gay couples had the same capacity for love as anyone else, the same yearning to be part of a family structure, the same desire to be accepted and to openly share their lives in peace without the disapproving glances and resentment of their fellow citizens, the same craving for happiness that those of us who are straight have.
I met a lesbian couple who had been together for 34 years. I met gay and lesbian couples who had lived together for decades, they told me, not for sex but for companionship and to satisfy the human craving to "belong" to someone.
When in doubt about public-policy matters that involve conflicting issues, I invariably go to the default position of asking myself what core values are at stake. In this case, I went to the most basic value of all, and it is stated in the Declaration of Independence: "We hold these truths to be self-evident that all men are created equal; that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights; that among these are life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness."
As I restated that passage in my mind, it dawned on me that there was no reference to sexual orientation. Only to equality based on an endowment from our Creator that included the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. With that moment of consciousness, my private thoughts yielded to this basic value.