SoCal78 said:PANDA said:Thank you SoCal, Tmare, and ISM for your insights on this topic as it is an interest of mine of rasing good, responsible kids in OC. Though you guys have very strong financial values and are trying teach your kids the same values, what happens if they are around very spoiled children where their parents spoil them rotten. Would that have any influence on your children in any way? No kids yet, but just curious.
You know, I do worry about the influence of the other kids. I think the parents just have to set an example. My son knows that we have enough money (I put it in terms he can understand - like how many Wii's we make a month) but he still sees me clipping coupons or saying that I really like something but I'm not going to buy it because I like the money more. A penny saved is a penny earned.
It is interesting to see his little classmates' reaction to things. Just recently he'd been getting a lot of holes in the knees of his jeans and other pants when he's been playing - some of the pants he's only worn a few times. I thought this is ridiculous - I'm not going to go out and spend money on a new pair of pants every time he skins his knee. So I bought some iron-on patches and just did all his pants. He wears them to school and his friends ask what that is. They don't know what a patch is! We are such a disposable society. Something breaks - throw it out and buy a new one. Not in my house. No way.
skek said:Good thread. Panda, you hit the nail on the head. Our biggest fear is the impact and influence that other kids are going to have on ours. It's downright frightening to see what passes for parenting in Orange County, even at a young age.
High Gravity said:skek said:Good thread. Panda, you hit the nail on the head. Our biggest fear is the impact and influence that other kids are going to have on ours. It's downright frightening to see what passes for parenting in Orange County, even at a young age.
Many of my colleagues in Newport Beach tell me their teenagers have no aspiration in life other than to find someone rich to marry.
High Gravity said:SoCal78 said:PANDA said:Thank you SoCal, Tmare, and ISM for your insights on this topic as it is an interest of mine of rasing good, responsible kids in OC. Though you guys have very strong financial values and are trying teach your kids the same values, what happens if they are around very spoiled children where their parents spoil them rotten. Would that have any influence on your children in any way? No kids yet, but just curious.
You know, I do worry about the influence of the other kids. I think the parents just have to set an example. My son knows that we have enough money (I put it in terms he can understand - like how many Wii's we make a month) but he still sees me clipping coupons or saying that I really like something but I'm not going to buy it because I like the money more. A penny saved is a penny earned.
It is interesting to see his little classmates' reaction to things. Just recently he'd been getting a lot of holes in the knees of his jeans and other pants when he's been playing - some of the pants he's only worn a few times. I thought this is ridiculous - I'm not going to go out and spend money on a new pair of pants every time he skins his knee. So I bought some iron-on patches and just did all his pants. He wears them to school and his friends ask what that is. They don't know what a patch is! We are such a disposable society. Something breaks - throw it out and buy a new one. Not in my house. No way.
My mom used to put iron on patches on my Tough Skins pants. The ridicule I suffered at the hands of my classmates because of the cheap pants and patches scars me to this day.
High Gravity said:SoCal78 said:PANDA said:Thank you SoCal, Tmare, and ISM for your insights on this topic as it is an interest of mine of rasing good, responsible kids in OC. Though you guys have very strong financial values and are trying teach your kids the same values, what happens if they are around very spoiled children where their parents spoil them rotten. Would that have any influence on your children in any way? No kids yet, but just curious.
You know, I do worry about the influence of the other kids. I think the parents just have to set an example. My son knows that we have enough money (I put it in terms he can understand - like how many Wii's we make a month) but he still sees me clipping coupons or saying that I really like something but I'm not going to buy it because I like the money more. A penny saved is a penny earned.
It is interesting to see his little classmates' reaction to things. Just recently he'd been getting a lot of holes in the knees of his jeans and other pants when he's been playing - some of the pants he's only worn a few times. I thought this is ridiculous - I'm not going to go out and spend money on a new pair of pants every time he skins his knee. So I bought some iron-on patches and just did all his pants. He wears them to school and his friends ask what that is. They don't know what a patch is! We are such a disposable society. Something breaks - throw it out and buy a new one. Not in my house. No way.
My mom used to put iron on patches on my Tough Skins pants. The ridicule I suffered at the hands of my classmates because of the cheap pants and patches scars me to this day.
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PANDA said:High Gravity, if it makes you feel any better, I got picked on my classmates for being Asian. Those little second graders threatened to blind fold my eyes with dental floss.
tenmagnet said:PANDA said:High Gravity, if it makes you feel any better, I got picked on my classmates for being Asian. Those little second graders threatened to blind fold my eyes with dental floss.
C?mon man, give it a rest and stop trying to play that card.
You?ve posted that 100x, no need to keep playing the victim
Being asian had nothing to do with it.
You got picked on because you are a dork plain and simple.
Accept it, embrace it and move on.
Being 5?4? and chubby didn?t help either.
SoCal78 said:It might surprise you, but when it comes to him being driving age, I am going to do whatever it takes to make sure he has a car. I'm not saying a brand new car or a luxury car, but not a beater either. I think it is critical to a guy's self esteem at that age (or so I'm told by men.) But at that point he'd better not get cocky or what is given will be taken away. I will take your advice into consideration and look for signs that my cheapness is causing him any suffering with self-esteem issues, which I definitely want to avoid. Thank you.
High Gravity said:My mom used to put iron on patches on my Tough Skins pants. The ridicule I suffered at the hands of my classmates because of the cheap pants and patches scars me to this day.
BlackVault CM said:As a parent, it will be crucial for me not to read him books on Winnie the Pooh, though maybe I'll read How Grinch stole X-mas. Instead I will be reading to him books on valuation methods, complex barrier options, dynamic delta hedging, option hedging, asset price behavior, normal distribution returns, quantitative methods etc...
BlackVault CM said:I've already started teaching my son finance.
Each night, I place these giant headphones on my wife's belly that plays your normal college finance textbooks on tape. Economics, Finance 101, etc.
By the time he comes out, he should have basic finance down. I would expect that he can calculate quadratic equations by then too.
As a parent, it will be crucial for me not to read him books on Winnie the Pooh, though maybe I'll read How Grinch stole X-mas. Instead I will be reading to him books on valuation methods, complex barrier options,
dynamic delta hedging, option hedging, asset price behavior, normal distribution returns, quantitative methods etc...
I want to make sure he really understands derivatives and how to leverage himself 1,000 times over.
That way if I'm successful, I will have created the next Alan Greenspan to fuel the next credit bubble and financial collapse.
WINEX said:High Gravity said:My mom used to put iron on patches on my Tough Skins pants. The ridicule I suffered at the hands of my classmates because of the cheap pants and patches scars me to this day.
Wow. I hope you are just being melodramatic.
Anonymous said:BlackVault CM said:I've already started teaching my son finance.
Each night, I place these giant headphones on my wife's belly that plays your normal college finance textbooks on tape. Economics, Finance 101, etc.
By the time he comes out, he should have basic finance down. I would expect that he can calculate quadratic equations by then too.
As a parent, it will be crucial for me not to read him books on Winnie the Pooh, though maybe I'll read How Grinch stole X-mas. Instead I will be reading to him books on valuation methods, complex barrier options,
dynamic delta hedging, option hedging, asset price behavior, normal distribution returns, quantitative methods etc...
I want to make sure he really understands derivatives and how to leverage himself 1,000 times over.
That way if I'm successful, I will have created the next Alan Greenspan to fuel the next credit bubble and financial collapse.
I predict, as a bedtime parent reader, you will be much more sucessful than the rest of us at getting him to sleep on time.