roundcorners_IHB
New member
The speculation this week with our new member Battie was over how, he was able to afford a SFR in Irvine at 25. Many including myself automatically assume some sort of parental help either with the down payment or monthly payments. For most couples in Irvine (I can name at least 10) they were ONLY able to buy because they had some sort of parental assistance. One reason for this phenomenon is that baby boomers parents are dumping all their assets so that they can possibly get more social security income and pay fewer taxes when they retire. I know of a few friends whose names are going to be on the title of their parents homes; the parents of course are still going to subsidize property taxes.
Although not limited, the Asian culture is known for these kinds of asset co-mingling. There is no differentiation between the monies of the parents and the children. One friend comes to mind, where he has full access to all of his parent?s bank accounts; he manages and moves monies back and forth between his parents and his personal accounts. The problem always comes when the wife feels "left out" in the families? finances. My wife often hears earfuls of stories where they simply have no opinions in family decision and matters. They often feel unable to voice strong opinions regarding child rearing and lifestyle choices; because the in-laws essentially bought their house and their lifestyle.
I wonder how many of you had some sort of help from the parents. But mainly how has this affected your relationships with your parents and your spouse. Indeed there is something to be said about "leave and cleave". I also like to see if there are cases where healthy boundaries are drawn while accepting parental "gifts".
Although not limited, the Asian culture is known for these kinds of asset co-mingling. There is no differentiation between the monies of the parents and the children. One friend comes to mind, where he has full access to all of his parent?s bank accounts; he manages and moves monies back and forth between his parents and his personal accounts. The problem always comes when the wife feels "left out" in the families? finances. My wife often hears earfuls of stories where they simply have no opinions in family decision and matters. They often feel unable to voice strong opinions regarding child rearing and lifestyle choices; because the in-laws essentially bought their house and their lifestyle.
I wonder how many of you had some sort of help from the parents. But mainly how has this affected your relationships with your parents and your spouse. Indeed there is something to be said about "leave and cleave". I also like to see if there are cases where healthy boundaries are drawn while accepting parental "gifts".