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My interpretation was that it was graph's way of saying that some things are beyond your control and will happen when they are meant to - which <em>relinquishes </em> the single people in question from any blame for it not happening regardless of what they have or haven't done to make it happen. (That sentence was too long.) Did we get it right, G?
 
[quote author="PANDA" date=1233483901]Graph! Why gotta hurt irvinesinglemom's feelings like that? I know what you are trying to say, but you could of said it in more loving way you know.</blockquote>


Panda, sometimes it is best to say nothing at all. Way to go, instead of offering support in a positive way, you chose to see the negative. Good job. I hope you are proud.
 
[quote author="no_vaseline" date=1233488586][quote author="tmare" date=1233486866]ISM- I have really never pictured you as someone who Graph was describing. Of course, I don't know you but you seem to know who you are and you aren't trying to pretend to be someone else. I actually liked what he said but I don't think it describes you.</blockquote>


Thats what I was gonna say. I kind of know ISM and I didn't think she was the Swinging Door type. (I've never been to the Door, but I used to go to the Salty Dawg a couple of times a month with a customer).



Either way, I know G didn't mean it that way.</blockquote>


You both are right, I didn't mean it in that way at all. We are talking about two different types of people, who are at very different points in their lives. Yeah... ISM would be out of place at the swinging door. Heh, so would I.
 
[quote author="SoCal78" date=1233489138]My interpretation was that it was graph's way of saying that some things are beyond your control and will happen when they are meant to - which <em>relinquishes </em> the single people in question from any blame for it not happening regardless of what they have or haven't done to make it happen. (That sentence was too long.) Did we get it right, G?</blockquote>


You got it right. I could have made more of an effort myself, but I didn't. I just got lucky, and I know it, I know it every single day. I was single for quite some time. I struggled with finding quality dates, and I suffered through many a bad ones. I dated the typical OC girl. I dated the laid back girl (too laid back IMO). I dated the educated girl. I dated the girl who would be educated by me. I dated the clingy want to get married now girl. I dated the girl who couldn't see herself getting married in this decade (And, she proved that in many ways. She still isn't married, and has called off her wedding to the guy that she finally committed to. At least that I know of...).



So to say I haven't been through the crap of dating a bunch of time wasting girls, or have or haven't made an effort is totally false. When I have stopped caring about who it is I am going to impress, and live my life, for myself, and improve myself for me, is when I stumble upon the best relationships. I don't give up and eat meatball sandwiches while watching three basketball games on TV at a bar, instead I go to gym, I read more, I find a new hobby or desire, I improve myself for me.



It has happened to me more than once now. Right before I made the decision to move back down to OC, a decision I made for myself, because I thought it would better myself, I sh*t you not, the day that would be considered the transition day, I met a great girl. It was a great relationship while it lasted, and while it ended, I will never regret it. But the one thing that stands out... I didn't care whether I met someone at that time, and I didn't need to meet someone at that time. It happened when all I cared about was doing what was right for me.



You can either make it happen by trying hard to find that person, or you can try hard to be the person you want to be for yourself and no one else. Either way, you can find someone, and if you are not, then maybe the approach you are taking is not right for you. You... need to find what is going to work the best for you.



If you want me to be brutally honest on how you can improve yourself from a community college level of psychology educated person, and personal experience, then I can do that. Just be prepared for me to be honest, and the truth hurts sometimes.
 
[quote author="graphrix" date=1233511305][quote author="PANDA" date=1233483901]Graph! Why gotta hurt irvinesinglemom's feelings like that? I know what you are trying to say, but you could of said it in more loving way you know.</blockquote>


Panda, sometimes it is best to say nothing at all. Way to go, instead of offering support in a positive way, you chose to see the negative. Good job. I hope you are proud.</blockquote>


Graph, is there any way you can change your avitar? Perhaps, I will be nicer to you then.
 
[quote author="Oscar" date=1233513243]Seriously graphrix... lay off the chick flicks.</blockquote>


Well then stop asking me to come over and watch movies with you... only for you to break out your giant collection of chick flicks. It's not normal.
 
[quote author="PANDA" date=1233523845][quote author="graphrix" date=1233511305][quote author="PANDA" date=1233483901]Graph! Why gotta hurt irvinesinglemom's feelings like that? I know what you are trying to say, but you could of said it in more loving way you know.</blockquote>


Panda, sometimes it is best to say nothing at all. Way to go, instead of offering support in a positive way, you chose to see the negative. Good job. I hope you are proud.</blockquote>


Graph, is there any way you can change your avitar? Perhaps, I will be nicer to you then.</blockquote>


Again, you missed my point. I could care less if you are nice to me or not, and what you said wasn't nice to someone else and I tried to point that out. Changing my avatar will not change that either.
 
[quote author="graphrix" date=1233542794][quote author="PANDA" date=1233523845][quote author="graphrix" date=1233511305][quote author="PANDA" date=1233483901]Graph! Why gotta hurt irvinesinglemom's feelings like that? I know what you are trying to say, but you could of said it in more loving way you know.</blockquote>


Panda, sometimes it is best to say nothing at all. Way to go, instead of offering support in a positive way, you chose to see the negative. Good job. I hope you are proud.</blockquote>


Graph, is there any way you can change your avitar? Perhaps, I will be nicer to you then.</blockquote>


Again, you missed my point. I could care less if you are nice to me or not, and what you said wasn't nice to someone else and I tried to point that out. Changing my avatar will not change that either.</blockquote>


What is your point Graph? Dude, this conversation is going no where. i will stop right here.
 
[quote author="Oscar" date=1233513243]Seriously graphrix... lay off the chick flicks.</blockquote>


Probably not the thread for you, grouchy.
 
[quote author="graphrix" date=1233542570][quote author="Oscar" date=1233513243]Seriously graphrix... lay off the chick flicks.</blockquote>


Well then stop asking me to come over and watch movies with you... only for you to break out your giant collection of chick flicks. It's not normal.</blockquote>


This from the guy that brought <em>Jerry Maguire</em> and <em>Prince of Tides</em>. :roll:
 
[quote author="Oscar" date=1233549368][quote author="graphrix" date=1233542570][quote author="Oscar" date=1233513243]Seriously graphrix... lay off the chick flicks.</blockquote>


Well then stop asking me to come over and watch movies with you... only for you to break out your giant collection of chick flicks. It's not normal.</blockquote>


This from the guy that brought <em>Jerry Maguire</em> and <em>Prince of Tides</em>. :roll:</blockquote>


Yeah... when I told you my ex left them at my place and didn't want them back, you got all giddy and said "Oh! Bring them, bring them! My copies all have scratches from watching them over and over again." And... you wonder why I always have an excuse to not hang out with you...
 
[quote author="graphrix" date=1233550109][quote author="Oscar" date=1233549368][quote author="graphrix" date=1233542570][quote author="Oscar" date=1233513243]Seriously graphrix... lay off the chick flicks.</blockquote>


Well then stop asking me to come over and watch movies with you... only for you to break out your giant collection of chick flicks. It's not normal.</blockquote>


This from the guy that brought <em>Jerry Maguire</em> and <em>Prince of Tides</em>. :roll:</blockquote>


Yeah... when I told you my ex left them at my place and didn't want them back, you got all giddy and said "Oh! Bring them, bring them! My copies all have scratches from watching them over and over again." And... you wonder why I always have an excuse to not hang out with you...</blockquote>
I took those movies off your hands so you'd quit dwelling on your ex and calling me in the middle of the night so you "didn't feel so alone", but they went straight into the recycling bin when you left. As for why you don't hang out... we all know you're whipped, quit trying to front.
 
[quote author="4walls4me" date=1233473702] None of the Jiu-Jitsu I know will work anymore, and my ground game sucks as it is. I'm </blockquote>


hah. Thats awesome. Not that your groundgame sucks, but that a girl would make a comment like that. No wonder you've been on two dates already! ;-)





But in regards to your problem...just take up some bladework. 112 lbs might not have enough beef to knock someone senseless, but if you put 3 inches of steel in your hand, your boxing will work plenty good.
 
[quote author="Oscar" date=1233554375][quote author="graphrix" date=1233550109][quote author="Oscar" date=1233549368][quote author="graphrix" date=1233542570][quote author="Oscar" date=1233513243]Seriously graphrix... lay off the chick flicks.</blockquote>


Well then stop asking me to come over and watch movies with you... only for you to break out your giant collection of chick flicks. It's not normal.</blockquote>


This from the guy that brought <em>Jerry Maguire</em> and <em>Prince of Tides</em>. :roll:</blockquote>


Yeah... when I told you my ex left them at my place and didn't want them back, you got all giddy and said "Oh! Bring them, bring them! My copies all have scratches from watching them over and over again." And... you wonder why I always have an excuse to not hang out with you...</blockquote>
I took those movies off your hands so you'd quit dwelling on your ex and calling me in the middle of the night so you "didn't feel so alone", but they went straight into the recycling bin when you left. As for why you don't hang out... we all know you're whipped, quit trying to front.</blockquote>


I think all three of us need to go to the Dawg for a beer.
 
[quote author="no_vaseline" date=1233589266][quote author="Oscar" date=1233554375]I took those movies off your hands so you'd quit dwelling on your ex and calling me in the middle of the night so you "didn't feel so alone", but they went straight into the recycling bin when you left. As for why you don't hang out... we all know you're whipped, quit trying to front.</blockquote>


I think all three of us need to go to the Dawg for a beer.</blockquote>


Seriously... now we just need to see if we can get Oscar to escape from his can. He will prolly just want some coffee though. It explains why he can be high strung and posts at weird hours. But, despite his love for chick flicks, he is an alright guy.
 
Okay gang, please scratch everything I have been lamenting about (my inability to attract male attention). I am up in San Jose right now at a meeting in a hotel for the week. It's only Wednesday and I have been hit on by no less than FOUR men! It had been so many years that I had forgotten how to flirt, and now I feel like a movie star or something.



So clearly the problem is not so much with ISM as it is with ISM's environment. All I needed to do was spend my time in a hotel in San Jose where a software company meeting is also taking place. Voila! Instant sex appeal!



Hmmm...I'd consider becoming "sanjosesinglemom" if only that were a real option.
 
[quote author="irvinesinglemom" date=1233835031]Okay gang, please scratch everything I have been lamenting about (my inability to attract male attention). I am up in San Jose right now at a meeting in a hotel for the week. It's only Wednesday and I have been hit on by no less than FOUR men! It had been so many years that I had forgotten how to flirt, and now I feel like a movie star or something.



So clearly the problem is not so much with ISM as it is with ISM's environment. All I needed to do was spend my time in a hotel in San Jose where a software company meeting is also taking place. Voila! Instant sex appeal!



Hmmm...I'd consider becoming "sanjosesinglemom" if only that were a real option.</blockquote>


Are you looking to date or have sex? If you're looking for a man to date, see how long it lasts when he finds out you're not interested in sex. You sould know how conferences at a hotel are. It's a situation where men are away from their wives, strip away their wedding rings, and look for sex. If you're looking for sex, then Voila! you got it! If no, just be careful...thats all.
 
[quote author="BlackVault CM" date=1233835966][quote author="irvinesinglemom" date=1233835031]Okay gang, please scratch everything I have been lamenting about (my inability to attract male attention). I am up in San Jose right now at a meeting in a hotel for the week. It's only Wednesday and I have been hit on by no less than FOUR men! It had been so many years that I had forgotten how to flirt, and now I feel like a movie star or something.



So clearly the problem is not so much with ISM as it is with ISM's environment. All I needed to do was spend my time in a hotel in San Jose where a software company meeting is also taking place. Voila! Instant sex appeal!



Hmmm...I'd consider becoming "sanjosesinglemom" if only that were a real option.</blockquote>


Are you looking to date or have sex? If you're looking for a man to date, see how long it lasts when he finds out you're not interested in sex. You sould know how conferences at a hotel are. It's a situation where men are away from their wives, strip away their wedding rings, and look for sex. If you're looking for sex, then Voila! you got it! If no, just be careful...thats all.</blockquote>


BlackVault,



You crack me up!



"It's a situation where men are away from their wives, strip away their wedding rings, and look for sex."



How come you know so much about this? C'mon BV, spill the beans.
 
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