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Although I still carry many wounds from my parents and this style of parenting; our family have healed recently enough for me to talk about some of the abuse that I suffered as a child?
I remembered being driving to an empty rural field on the way to school as being told to pack my things and being forced to get out of the car. I don?t remember what I did wrong; maybe I was misbehaving or doing bad in school; but I remember crying my eyes out and begging to stay?
I can not count the number of times I was beaten with numerous objects, shovels, broom stick, rulers, and chairs; down my back, legs and shoulders? almost on a weekly or daily basis?
Being threatened to be kicked out of the family, remember holding the front door post, hanging on to dear life while my dad dragged me out the door, kicking and screaming?
Having a #2 pencil stabbed into my hands for getting a math problem wrong; I still have the black (tattoo) lead marks under my skin?
Being called, stupid, an idiot and worthless from before I can remember?
It was also during my elementary years that I would start hanging out at a classmate?s house; and being shown Christ?s love in a ?westerner?s home?; I also remembered the first time the mom went to hug me; and I shutter as I thought I was being beaten. Neighbors in Harbor City back in the early 80s didn?t have much, but we had each other, parents who were home at a decent hour; moms who actually baked us cookies; and took us to movies.
We were safe to roam freely the different houses, Hispanic, Black and White houses. When was the last time you saw that in Irvine? When was the last time, you actually step foot inside your neighbors home? When was the last time you kids stepped foot inside your neighbor?s home? Not Clubhouse, not sidewalk, not pocket-parks, not at a restaurant, retail center...! When was the last time you spontaneously invited a scrawny Asian boy with welt marks down his back, inside your home, baked him cookies and gave him a hug?
PS ? For all you Asian parent out there let this article be a warning? If I even see any sliver signs of abuse; you can bet your sorry Dragon ass that I will F***** report you to child protective services. I also encourage every other Mandate Reporter out there to be vigilant especially in lovely Irvine!
I believe that God has protected me through my entire life, from showing his love to me through a hug and finally saving our family...
I share this with you all now, because He is the only one that has recently reconcile a lot of that junk that I mentioned... My parents were harsh, but you can say they aged gracefully...
With the birth of our son, we have more recently reconcile... but first by admission of the abuse and rightful apologies...
Although I still carry many wounds from my parents and this style of parenting; our family have healed recently enough for me to talk about some of the abuse that I suffered as a child?
I remembered being driving to an empty rural field on the way to school as being told to pack my things and being forced to get out of the car. I don?t remember what I did wrong; maybe I was misbehaving or doing bad in school; but I remember crying my eyes out and begging to stay?
I can not count the number of times I was beaten with numerous objects, shovels, broom stick, rulers, and chairs; down my back, legs and shoulders? almost on a weekly or daily basis?
Being threatened to be kicked out of the family, remember holding the front door post, hanging on to dear life while my dad dragged me out the door, kicking and screaming?
Having a #2 pencil stabbed into my hands for getting a math problem wrong; I still have the black (tattoo) lead marks under my skin?
Being called, stupid, an idiot and worthless from before I can remember?
It was also during my elementary years that I would start hanging out at a classmate?s house; and being shown Christ?s love in a ?westerner?s home?; I also remembered the first time the mom went to hug me; and I shutter as I thought I was being beaten. Neighbors in Harbor City back in the early 80s didn?t have much, but we had each other, parents who were home at a decent hour; moms who actually baked us cookies; and took us to movies.
We were safe to roam freely the different houses, Hispanic, Black and White houses. When was the last time you saw that in Irvine? When was the last time, you actually step foot inside your neighbors home? When was the last time you kids stepped foot inside your neighbor?s home? Not Clubhouse, not sidewalk, not pocket-parks, not at a restaurant, retail center...! When was the last time you spontaneously invited a scrawny Asian boy with welt marks down his back, inside your home, baked him cookies and gave him a hug?
PS ? For all you Asian parent out there let this article be a warning? If I even see any sliver signs of abuse; you can bet your sorry Dragon ass that I will F***** report you to child protective services. I also encourage every other Mandate Reporter out there to be vigilant especially in lovely Irvine!
I believe that God has protected me through my entire life, from showing his love to me through a hug and finally saving our family...
I share this with you all now, because He is the only one that has recently reconcile a lot of that junk that I mentioned... My parents were harsh, but you can say they aged gracefully...
With the birth of our son, we have more recently reconcile... but first by admission of the abuse and rightful apologies...
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