[quote author="JoonB" date=1249637867]As a working mom- I know that I couldn't do my job working from home and taking care of a baby and give each the proper attention needed- there's no way my husband would be able to do that either.
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I had my parents take care of my kids when I returned to work. They were a godsend. They came to my house at 6:30 am every morning (and I was in Chicago then so those cold Chicago winter mornings are tough)- and I then left to catch the train every morning into the city by 6:45 am. With the first child, I was definitely Type A- wanting to know every ounce of milk my daughter had, how much sleep she got, etc. It was hard to let go of the control. By the second child, I was much easier going and wasn't so militant about things. Going to work is hard if you decide to nurse your baby- you definitely have to be committed to do the pumping thing. I nursed both kids for almost a year, and dragging that pump back and forth to work and then pumping 3-4 times a day was a huge pain. The investment banking firm I was working at had a Mother's Room there, so it made it easier for me to pump.</blockquote>
Joon, catching the 6:45 am train to Chicago is what my wife does every day. Lately I've been picking her up from her work at 10pm. I can't tell honestly that I enjoy this, which is the reason I've been thinking about it a lot lately. I get the impression that you are a mother who is also a Type A, ambitious, and career driven. I never knew that my wife was also like that. Don't get me wrong, my wife would make a great mother, she cooks very well, loves kids, but at the same time her aspirations is to build her career and make it to manager one day at her public accounting firm. I am also a Type "A" and my ideal has been that i make enough money where my wife can stay home and be a full time mother. There are sacrifices you make with every decision. One of the stresses i see in marriages when both the husband and wife works is that when the husband is stressed from his full day of work, the wife isn't there to rewind the stress, because she is also stressed from her own job that is demanding.
Joon, if your husband was making $600,000 a year, where you had the option to work or not. Would you still pursue your career or would you mind being a full time mom? I am sorry if the question i am asking is too personal, but I see several of you are 5-7 years ahead of me in starting a family, and I can learn from your experiences. Though making a good household income, and buying that nice dream Irvine home is important to me, however having a strong marriage and being there to raise my kids with my wife is just as important to me.