My best friend is white, and he needs help.

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<p>California is a place open to mixed relationships. I have a Vietnamese friend from Canada who's marrying a Jewish guy next month. But overall, it is much easier to date within your own race. However, I can see why interracial relationships can be more interesting. I'm sure that if your friend interacted with enough Asian girls, he'll be bound to bump into some that have a thing for White guys. Basically, a female version of him.</p>
 
<p>Ehh, </p>

<p> I say date any and all and if you bump into somebody who LOVES you... well you know what to do. Its hard enough to find somebody who will accept you and all your foilables. Limiting yourself to a certain desire certainly does limit who you will find. </p>

<p>What you want and what you need are rarely ever the same thing....</p>

<p> This is going to sound harsh:</p>

<p> Grow up a little bit and you'll eventually find out.</p>

<p>good luck</p>

<p>-bix</p>
 
There are a couple of pieces of advice I have come across that have helped me in my relationship. I don't remember the source for the first one, but the second was the comedian, Jeff Foxworthy.





1. Everyone you meet is 80% gold and 20% dirt. Find the one with the 20% dirt you can live with, and you will be happy.





2. Never argue. If you do, follow every argument with the statement, "You are right" and every third argument add the statement, "and I am sorry." Practice this until you look and sound as if you really believe it.
 
A wise man from the UK once said something along the lines of "You can't always get what you want, but sometimes you get what you need." Have an open mind and heart, and everything will work out the way it is supposed to. And an open wallet on the first few dates does not hurt, either.
 
<em>"Hidden Irvine Crouching Renter"


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I actually have tears in my eyes from laughing so hard bk !





and Tulip...you're not off the hook yet for #5. I have my guess.....
 
<em>Seeing how this is LPX's first post/thread, you ever get this feeling that we're being trolled?





</em>I also think momo has a valid point here. Be careful what you share, it seems like this poster may have been fishing for our demographics.
 
<p>For those who can't stand the pungent smell of shrimp paste. May I suggest another simple dish to go with rice.</p>

<p>Chicken with thick soy sauce. Chop up a cornish hen, saute in a pot for a few minutes. Mince ginger and garlic. Mix them in with the chicken. Add a cup of water and some sugar. Lastly, add a table spoon of thick soy sauce. Let it simmers for 30 minutes. Muy deliciouso!</p>
 
It is called "Fish Sauce" or "Patis" in the Philippines. Filipina women are pressured to marry Caucasians, or Americans for that matter. I'm talking Filipinas who live in the Philippines, not American born Filipinas like my wife. Dark skin is associated with laborers and other farming folk. American males on the other hand associate the dark skin with exotic beauty.





According to her (wifey), asian women are very attractive, while asian men are extremely unattractive. Most asian men do not harbor the American male masculinity that women seek. Her words not mine.





Also, don't forget: Opposites Attract!
 
Or, take Her <a href="http://www.engrish.com/image/engrish/fucking-lovely.jpg">Shopping</a> for that special outfit and accessories
 
<p>lm,</p>

<p>Fish sauce is more liquid, while shrimp paste is solid base, I think. (sorry, for the fonts. I must have hit the wrong button).</p>

<p> </p>
 
<p>Who needs shrimp paste when you can enjoy....</p>

<p><img alt="" src="http://www.engrish.com/image/engrish/lice-omlet.jpg" /></p>
 
Is the problem that your wife is his sole source for access to asian women, and she's running out of women? ;-)



Instead of just asking out random women, he should just get involved in whatever genuinely interests him...but do it in a place or with an organization that has a high participation rate for asian women.



For example, does he go to church? I'd suggest he look for churches that emphasize multi-culturalism, like NewSong in Irvine or Mosaic in Los Angeles. Tons of single asian women there.



Join professional organizations that cater to asians/minorities. www.apex.org



Check out his school's alumni associations and get involved in the ones that cater to asians/minorities. For example, I see that UCI has a Chinese Alumni Association.



If he hasn't gone to grad school and was thinking about it, tell him to go to grad school at UCI or UCLA.



Just tell him not to act too desperate once he finds a group that he clicks with--all women can smell desperation, and it isn't attractive. No one will take him seriously as a potential mate if he gives off the impression that all asian women are fungible goods and that it doesn't matter which one he gets as long as he gets one.



I know plenty of "normal" asian women who married white guys. They usually met through mutual friends, at school, at work, or through their involvement in some shared interest. If he wants a "normal" asian women, I don't know if picking her up cold in a restaurant is the best strategy. Without any social context as to who he is, a "normal" asian woman would probably write him off immediately as some weird white guy with an asian fetish.
 
I'm sort of skeptical about this thread. . . but I'll bite.



If your friend is that stuck on any particular type of woman, it's going to show and going to work against him. If he were a little skeptical of Asian girls and not too into them, it would probably work in his favor. But, if he's at that sort of fetish level, any woman is going to pick up on that, and it not work in his favor.



Seriously, it's not that hard to just like, hang out at UCI-- the Asian girls there are so much more down to earth and fairly open to talking to guys.
 
Thanks Deadbeat Roommate,



That's probably the best advice of seen on this whole thread. I will be sure to tell me friend. Now i am going to exit this thread.



Thank you

JPX
 
I think #5 is about "sporting a big gun".



Just an observation. I have seen decent looking white guys with some of the most hideous looking Asian ladies I have ever seen. Those guys must have settled or just went to a poor village and chose the ugliest ones.
 
[quote author="JPX" date=1207432459]Thanks Deadbeat Roommate,



That's probably the best advice of seen on this whole thread. I will be sure to tell me friend. Now i am going to exit this thread.



Thank you

JPX</blockquote>


Are you kidding me?

This thread is loaded with treasure.

There are a lot of passionate people that weighed in, with the sole intention of helping your friend break thru. What more can be said?

My final piece de resistance is to tell your friend to ditch the tie and sweatervest when you guys are hittin? clubs and maybe mix in a Mystic Tan or two.

Big thumbs-up to eveyone for doling out the gravy
 
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