irvinehomeshopper said:Asians are into foods and especially for this generation where eating out is a norm. Most Yelpers and Chowhounders are Asians.
irvinehomeshopper said:Asians in general conform to peer activities to avoiding being an outcast. It might be how they were raised by their parents. Their actions must be accepted by reward, praise or denial. Needing acceptance and validation is huge in this culture. They seek acceptence by their friends, families and co-workers. Repetition in doing things to earning praises is huge but always avoiding action that lead to confrontation or rejection. Dining, picture taking, living in the same city, shopping at the same mall, attending the same school, and etc are ways to avoid straying off the path that could lead to rejection.
This kinda applies to other immigrants. Some of what you mention applied to my parents and family.irvinehomeshopper said:Asians in general conform to peer activities to avoiding being an outcast. It might be how they were raised by their parents. Their actions must be accepted by reward, praise or denial. Needing acceptance and validation is huge in this culture. They seek acceptence by their friends, families and co-workers. Repetition in doing things to earning praises is huge but always avoiding action that lead to confrontation or rejection. Dining, picture taking, living in the same city, shopping at the same mall, attending the same school, and etc are ways to avoid straying off the path that could lead to rejection.
irvinehomeshopper said:Among the ethnic population there is a rating system that determined whether that person has achieved a level of success. This is a lifelong game like World of Warcraft where players need to accumulate rewards and overcome tasks that define their different levels in the social ladder of success. Here are just some example that define life achievements and progress among immigrants and their offsprings.
1. Studying abroad
2. Immigration to the USA, Canada, France, or Australia
3. Attend a good school or have children attend a good school.
4. Carrying or wearing a status brand.
5. Buying a brand new home or almost new home.
6. Living in a good zipcode.
7. Driving a Luxury car
8. Have a respected profession.
9. Having hobby or skills associated with royalty
10. Having a lot of photos to proof extensive traveling.
11. Dine at the top restaurants and have proofs to share.
I'm sure this is how most societies define a level of success among individuals but for Asians these are obsessions. Charity work without financial return or public praise is rare. Thankless volunteer job like educating the prison population is out of the picture. Spiritual satisfaction is not a priority.
(reposting because I accidentally posted in Toxic thread)
traceimage said:irvinehomeshopper said:Among the ethnic population there is a rating system that determined whether that person has achieved a level of success. This is a lifelong game like World of Warcraft where players need to accumulate rewards and overcome tasks that define their different levels in the social ladder of success. Here are just some example that define life achievements and progress among immigrants and their offsprings.
1. Studying abroad
2. Immigration to the USA, Canada, France, or Australia
3. Attend a good school or have children attend a good school.
4. Carrying or wearing a status brand.
5. Buying a brand new home or almost new home.
6. Living in a good zipcode.
7. Driving a Luxury car
8. Have a respected profession.
9. Having hobby or skills associated with royalty
10. Having a lot of photos to proof extensive traveling.
11. Dine at the top restaurants and have proofs to share.
I'm sure this is how most societies define a level of success among individuals but for Asians these are obsessions. Charity work without financial return or public praise is rare. Thankless volunteer job like educating the prison population is out of the picture. Spiritual satisfaction is not a priority.
(reposting because I accidentally posted in Toxic thread)
I'm glad my immigrant husband does not subscribe to this list! I'm starting to think he is quite atypical of Asian immigrants.
irvinehomeshopper said:Charity work without financial return or public praise is rare. Thankless volunteer job like educating the prison population is out of the picture. Spiritual satisfaction is not a priority.
irvinehomeshopper said:9. Having hobby or skills associated with royalty
traceimage said:irvinehomeshopper said:Among the ethnic population there is a rating system that determined whether that person has achieved a level of success. This is a lifelong game like World of Warcraft where players need to accumulate rewards and overcome tasks that define their different levels in the social ladder of success. Here are just some example that define life achievements and progress among immigrants and their offsprings.
1. Studying abroad
2. Immigration to the USA, Canada, France, or Australia
3. Attend a good school or have children attend a good school.
4. Carrying or wearing a status brand.
5. Buying a brand new home or almost new home.
6. Living in a good zipcode.
7. Driving a Luxury car
8. Have a respected profession.
9. Having hobby or skills associated with royalty
10. Having a lot of photos to proof extensive traveling.
11. Dine at the top restaurants and have proofs to share.
I'm sure this is how most societies define a level of success among individuals but for Asians these are obsessions. Charity work without financial return or public praise is rare. Thankless volunteer job like educating the prison population is out of the picture. Spiritual satisfaction is not a priority.
(reposting because I accidentally posted in Toxic thread)
I'm glad my immigrant husband does not subscribe to this list! I'm starting to think he is quite atypical of Asian immigrants.
SoCal78 said:This:
irvinehomeshopper said:Charity work without financial return or public praise is rare. Thankless volunteer job like educating the prison population is out of the picture. Spiritual satisfaction is not a priority.
conflicts with this:
irvinehomeshopper said:9. Having hobby or skills associated with royalty
For example: The British royal family is known for their charity work. It was made especially popular by Lady Diana, Princess of Wales and carried on by her sons, particularly the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge.
irvinehomeshopper said:He broke the cardinal law by marrying outside of his race so don't expect him to fall into the immigrant routines.
SoCal78 said:irvinehomeshopper said:He broke the cardinal law by marrying outside of his race so don't expect him to fall into the immigrant routines.
As long as we're on this topic, IHS, would you mind providing me some honest insight?
What do Asian guys in general think about white women? Also, do these rules apply to Pacific Islanders?