Cornflakes
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It took management few years of tolerating the destruction and gather courage to "we can live without him.." and finally he was escorted out to parking lot.
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socal78
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Yesterday was insane. Just when I was starting to think maybe I can handle 1 of the 2 annoying people, things took a turn.
This lady, who I had previously thought about inviting out for a day at the Spectrum as a means to an end earlier in this thread, spent an hour and a half standing next to my desk last night talking to me about her life, following up each thing up with a question:
- Her masturbating(!) & do I masturbate, too?
- Graphic details of her sex life with her ex-husband & asking how my sex life is.
- Her hate & distrust of all men and do I agree with her men are the worst?
- Her extreme insecurities regarding her latest boyfriend (borderline stalking, imo) & that recent break-up (he dumped her). Wanting to know if he's as much of a pig as she thinks he is.
- Her visits to the shrink and do I go to one?
- Her inability to have a successful romantic relationship since her divorce 5 years ago, including her marriage... and telling me I SHOULD CELEBRATE IF MY HUSBAND DIES. I damn-near slapped her on that last one. She says if I become a widow or a divorc?e, I can finally enjoy my freedom like her. (Doesn't sound like she's enjoying it!) I had to get up and walk out of the room. Who, in the fresh hell, says that.
There's going to be people who suck no matter where you go. But this is just totally unreasonable, imo. I would be required to work side-by-side with her, literally within inches of her all day, if I take the "great" opportunity offered to me when my boss retires within 2 years.
This lady, who I had previously thought about inviting out for a day at the Spectrum as a means to an end earlier in this thread, spent an hour and a half standing next to my desk last night talking to me about her life, following up each thing up with a question:
- Her masturbating(!) & do I masturbate, too?
- Graphic details of her sex life with her ex-husband & asking how my sex life is.
- Her hate & distrust of all men and do I agree with her men are the worst?
- Her extreme insecurities regarding her latest boyfriend (borderline stalking, imo) & that recent break-up (he dumped her). Wanting to know if he's as much of a pig as she thinks he is.
- Her visits to the shrink and do I go to one?
- Her inability to have a successful romantic relationship since her divorce 5 years ago, including her marriage... and telling me I SHOULD CELEBRATE IF MY HUSBAND DIES. I damn-near slapped her on that last one. She says if I become a widow or a divorc?e, I can finally enjoy my freedom like her. (Doesn't sound like she's enjoying it!) I had to get up and walk out of the room. Who, in the fresh hell, says that.
There's going to be people who suck no matter where you go. But this is just totally unreasonable, imo. I would be required to work side-by-side with her, literally within inches of her all day, if I take the "great" opportunity offered to me when my boss retires within 2 years.
momopi
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Introduce her to Korean Drama. Tell her to buy an Apple TV 4th gen and install Viki and Dramafever. Watch "Descendants of the Sun" and "Goblin".
If that doesn't work, take her deep sea fishing for cod and... maybe she'll have an accident on the way back when nobody was looking.
If that doesn't work, take her deep sea fishing for cod and... maybe she'll have an accident on the way back when nobody was looking.
socal78
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She's also extremely competitive... (literally) "tit for tat"! So annoying. Real examples of our conversations:
- If I say I got food poisoning like when I just got back from S.F., she'll say she had it too but worse.
- She asked what places we visited on our trip. I named some places. She says she did all that but more.
- She asked where I stayed. I told her. She stayed at a better hotel.
- She asked me if I was ever a room mom at my kids school. I say yeah. She asks how long. I say 5 years. She'll say she's been a dance troop mom for 6 years (beating me by a year.)
- Our resident last night, an old man... mid to late 80s, came in. He says, "There's my favorite girlfriend. I missed you, Doll", right in front of her. He says this every time he sees me. It's our thing. I say, "There's my boyfriend!" We hug. He tells me my hugs make his day. (So cute. I love it.) She looks royally pissed. Hey, she could have hugged him. She chose not to. He leaves and she tells me, well, she's so-and-so's favorite.
- He asked how a job interview went that I had last week. I said they offered me the job but I don't think it's for me. She mentioned building her career except with better, more lucrative opportunities than mine, of course.
- She asked me how old I was when I got together with my husband. I said 19. She says she met her ex-husband when she was 18 (again, one-up me. I just can't win.)
- Last night, she asked me if I breastfed my kids. I said yes. Of course, she had to ask how long. Here we go again. I stated the months. She says she did it for longer. But that wasn't enough for her. She then asked me HOW MUCH milk I produced, HOW FULL did my boobs get. This is crazy, even for her. I didn't answer because this whole thing has become full-on retarded. I'm not going to compare boobs with someone else. This is not why I come into the office. Neither one of us is currently breastfeeding anyway so how is this even relevant to today. So she went into EXTREME detail about herself, making it sound as though she's probably got me "beat" by a long shot.
What's next?!?! I'm thinking about maybe reporting this to the manager. The problem is she was actually hand-picked by said manager!
- If I say I got food poisoning like when I just got back from S.F., she'll say she had it too but worse.
- She asked what places we visited on our trip. I named some places. She says she did all that but more.
- She asked where I stayed. I told her. She stayed at a better hotel.
- She asked me if I was ever a room mom at my kids school. I say yeah. She asks how long. I say 5 years. She'll say she's been a dance troop mom for 6 years (beating me by a year.)
- Our resident last night, an old man... mid to late 80s, came in. He says, "There's my favorite girlfriend. I missed you, Doll", right in front of her. He says this every time he sees me. It's our thing. I say, "There's my boyfriend!" We hug. He tells me my hugs make his day. (So cute. I love it.) She looks royally pissed. Hey, she could have hugged him. She chose not to. He leaves and she tells me, well, she's so-and-so's favorite.
- He asked how a job interview went that I had last week. I said they offered me the job but I don't think it's for me. She mentioned building her career except with better, more lucrative opportunities than mine, of course.
- She asked me how old I was when I got together with my husband. I said 19. She says she met her ex-husband when she was 18 (again, one-up me. I just can't win.)
- Last night, she asked me if I breastfed my kids. I said yes. Of course, she had to ask how long. Here we go again. I stated the months. She says she did it for longer. But that wasn't enough for her. She then asked me HOW MUCH milk I produced, HOW FULL did my boobs get. This is crazy, even for her. I didn't answer because this whole thing has become full-on retarded. I'm not going to compare boobs with someone else. This is not why I come into the office. Neither one of us is currently breastfeeding anyway so how is this even relevant to today. So she went into EXTREME detail about herself, making it sound as though she's probably got me "beat" by a long shot.
What's next?!?! I'm thinking about maybe reporting this to the manager. The problem is she was actually hand-picked by said manager!
Irvine Dream
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SoCal said:
SoCal, you are blessed with a colorful life, never a boring moment. Some of us lead a very boring life with no shades, have to pretend that I am a stalker even to get some shades >
Paris167
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Omg SoCal! Your coworker experiences are the reason why I'm so glad I don't work in an office setting. That would drive me crazy! I'm so thankful my work surroundings involve intubated and sedated people I don't spend much time around don't you wish you had some of my meds to administer to your coworkers? Oh sorry, you must be temporarily paralyzed.
Btw tell your boss to check out "Our Time" the match program for older folks
don't you wish you had some of my meds to administer to your coworkers? Oh sorry, you must be temporarily paralyzed. Btw tell your boss to check out "Our Time" the match program for older folks
irvinehomeowner
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paydawg said:You should set her up with your butcher. >
#postoftheday
socal78
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I'm frustrated.
My co-worker's husband has cancer. She has been missing work to take him to C*i*t*y o*f *H*o*p*e for c*an*cer t*rea*tme*nts. Her return date is unknown. I don't know this lady well... only met her a few times. But I feel bad for her. I sent her and my elderly / forgetful / remiss boss an email saying if the company would allow it, I would like to donate all of my sick time for 2017 to her.
I asked my boss to please let me know how we can arrange this. I would be happy to do whatever I need to do to sign any forms, jump through whatever hoops, etc. (She's big on making every small thing an obstacle / excuse to discourage us because she just never wants to deal with things.)
She literally replied immediately saying, "That's nice but the company won't allow it." It was a dead giveaway that she never even checked. And there is no way for her to automatically know. As she always says, she's not familiar with the rules anymore since a new company recently bought out the business and "everything has changed". I find she makes no attempt to understand. She does the bare minimum, even less than what's required of her position, actually. She also said nobody at our office has ever requested to transfer their sick time or PTO to another employee before. That confirms she's never dealt with this type of issue and could not possibly know. Of course, it is entirely possible that the company, indeed, does not permit it. I could accept that. I would just like, you know, actual confirmation. But calling her out on it probably wouldn't go over too well.
I love her as a person but she's too old to do her job. It's absolutely maddening.
My co-worker's husband has cancer. She has been missing work to take him to C*i*t*y o*f *H*o*p*e for c*an*cer t*rea*tme*nts. Her return date is unknown. I don't know this lady well... only met her a few times. But I feel bad for her. I sent her and my elderly / forgetful / remiss boss an email saying if the company would allow it, I would like to donate all of my sick time for 2017 to her.
I asked my boss to please let me know how we can arrange this. I would be happy to do whatever I need to do to sign any forms, jump through whatever hoops, etc. (She's big on making every small thing an obstacle / excuse to discourage us because she just never wants to deal with things.)
She literally replied immediately saying, "That's nice but the company won't allow it." It was a dead giveaway that she never even checked. And there is no way for her to automatically know. As she always says, she's not familiar with the rules anymore since a new company recently bought out the business and "everything has changed". I find she makes no attempt to understand. She does the bare minimum, even less than what's required of her position, actually. She also said nobody at our office has ever requested to transfer their sick time or PTO to another employee before. That confirms she's never dealt with this type of issue and could not possibly know. Of course, it is entirely possible that the company, indeed, does not permit it. I could accept that. I would just like, you know, actual confirmation. But calling her out on it probably wouldn't go over too well.
I love her as a person but she's too old to do her job. It's absolutely maddening.
irvinehomeowner
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You should check with HR, you don't need to go to your boss to ask about that.
socal78
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irvinehomeowner said:
You would think so, huh. It's really frustrating because I've seen e-mails others have sent to corporate / H.R. where they forward it back to the manager and say they have to ask her. Even finding out who to contact at corporate is a challenge without the boss's help because it's a tangled mess. I've tried going online to find out but the website has been down for days. Really professional. To make matters worse, this elderly woman is in charge of all H.R. type duties in this small office such as staffing, orientation & training (which she is required to do but never does), reviews, disciplining (which she doesn't do), time cards (which she often messes up), etc. in addition to her regular role which has nothing to do with H.R. So, if I reach out, I think there's a high chance they will forward my email to her saying I have to ask her. That may injure diplomatic relations between us.
My other concern is raising red flags that she's not doing her job properly. If they were onto her and let her go, the "nutjob" who I posted about previously then becomes my new boss -- according to her anyway. "Topper" stayed late this week to tell me she's more qualified than me and is preparing to take that position, that she came from a "dog-eat-dog" environment and will do whatever she has to in order to move up. If that happens, I'm going to blow that Popsicle stand. But then there won't be any sick time to donate.