roundcorners_IHB
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I?ll be the first to tell friends/acquaintances that my wife and I have had professional marital counseling. We are not ashamed; my wife and I had about two years worth of weekly sessions. First with a license clinical social worker who specialized in family systems theory and then with a licensed clinical psychologist. It was important that both were Christian as we wanted not only wise counsel but ones that also have similar beliefs, values and faith.
The sessions ran about $120/week a couple of years ago; so I guess the going rate would be around $140 these days; for about 45 minutes. Of all the things we could have bought or invest in the first two years of our marriage, we choose to invest in getting our marriage healthy. Although I have to say, it wasn?t by choice we saw a counselor; it was purely out of survival and necessity.
Without going into a lot of details of why we went to counseling; let?s just say that both of us came from broken/blended families. Our emotional baggage was full of junk we?ve been carrying around all of our lives. We came into marriage as broken, emotionally fragmented people who had poor cooping mechanisms and poor conflict resolution skills.
This week my wife started port-partum counseling, she felt that she needed a little more support with the changes the baby brings. We been utterly exhausted with the baby these past few weeks; and things are not getting easier. I?m still glad to have good guys around and last night the wife and I had a needed break and nice dinner out. It?s been a tough week for us, and our marriage is holding up for now to the pressures of parenthood; but I can see how other couples strain to the new demands. We are definitely considered getting a brush up course in counseling, since we?ve been short and hot tempered with each other?s attitudes lately. I don?t want to start the slide down the slippery slope of distancing myself emotionally. What are you thoughts and experiences of counseling?
The sessions ran about $120/week a couple of years ago; so I guess the going rate would be around $140 these days; for about 45 minutes. Of all the things we could have bought or invest in the first two years of our marriage, we choose to invest in getting our marriage healthy. Although I have to say, it wasn?t by choice we saw a counselor; it was purely out of survival and necessity.
Without going into a lot of details of why we went to counseling; let?s just say that both of us came from broken/blended families. Our emotional baggage was full of junk we?ve been carrying around all of our lives. We came into marriage as broken, emotionally fragmented people who had poor cooping mechanisms and poor conflict resolution skills.
This week my wife started port-partum counseling, she felt that she needed a little more support with the changes the baby brings. We been utterly exhausted with the baby these past few weeks; and things are not getting easier. I?m still glad to have good guys around and last night the wife and I had a needed break and nice dinner out. It?s been a tough week for us, and our marriage is holding up for now to the pressures of parenthood; but I can see how other couples strain to the new demands. We are definitely considered getting a brush up course in counseling, since we?ve been short and hot tempered with each other?s attitudes lately. I don?t want to start the slide down the slippery slope of distancing myself emotionally. What are you thoughts and experiences of counseling?