I wanted to comment a little on the topic of a sense of community. And this was a big concern between my wife and I. Yes, it a sad norm in Southern California where you could live next to a neighbor for years without knowing their names, and we seen plenty of families where they pull right into their garages, close the door behind them and not see them for weeks. I know most of Irvine comprise of young couples with small children; parents who are usually both working and trying to raise families. Needless to say, we all lead very busy lives, the result which we don't have much energies, time or resources to lend to relationships beyond our own. This was the biggest argument of not to buy in Irvine when the time comes. We have friends in older cities like La Mirada, Buena Park, Tustin or even the South Bay, where cost of living is slightly lower. Where possibly one parent is home and neighborly relationships can have a chance to grow.
My argument still comes down to what your priorities are, is it to work 70+ hours a week. Come home all stressed, tired and grouchy or to really scale down our lifestyle and to really invest in the important things of life, mainly relationships. Indeed, a sense of community is truly hard to come by. It does take personal vulnerability, risk, hard work, and time. We can't simply rely on the HOA to simply plan events and hope you get invited to a BBQ or two. That sense of community can exist wherever you live, whoever you are. All it takes is a decision. When our family finally buys, "affordability" will also have to mean: taking a day off to help a neighbor move; taking someone to the airport; watching their pets when they are away; hosting get together; basically being there for someone who lives near me. That is truest sense of the word community; I like to use the term: “Giving someone the permission to interrupt”. Community to me means, giving someone permission to interrupt my agenda and that could happen anywhere you live.