SoCal78_IHB
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I'm hoping the people of IHB can help me brainstorm here. Sorry in advance if this sounds jumbled. My mind is all over the place right now.
A person in my family has not been heard from recently. Several of us family members just compared notes and collectively, nobody has heard from him since early September. This person, unfortunately, is my <a href="http://www.irvinehousingblog.com/forums/viewthread/6190/#128465">young male relative</a>. :long: At the time I wrote that post, I knew he was in some trouble and I encouraged to go back home or seek out help from his dad (my brother). His male pride is extremely big. He did not want to admit defeat and look like a failure (his words, not mine.)
Ok, so. The problem is... we don't have a way to contact him. No mailing address since he couldn't afford to keep his apartment and was staying with a friend temporarily. He never had a land line. His cell phone service was cut off. He was borrowing his friend's cell phone for a little while. We've all tried leaving voice mails there for the last couple months and haven't heard anything back. He doesn't have an employer we can check with since he's unemployed as far as we know. He's pretty close with one of his brothers and he hasn't even heard from him. I checked myspace and facebook to see if he has a profile, but no luck. To make matters worse, he has a very common name so it isn't easy to pin-point. We've all emailed him - afterall, he could check that from a public library if need be - but he hasn't replied at all. My brother lives out of state and is very worried that something has happened to him. My elderly dad went driving around the city of his last known residence, looking for him. I don't know if we should file a missing persons report or what! Are there some other avenues to check that I'm not thinking of?? I feel like he could be in "hiding" of his own will, due to feeling shame possibly. I hope he didn't do something crazy.
A person in my family has not been heard from recently. Several of us family members just compared notes and collectively, nobody has heard from him since early September. This person, unfortunately, is my <a href="http://www.irvinehousingblog.com/forums/viewthread/6190/#128465">young male relative</a>. :long: At the time I wrote that post, I knew he was in some trouble and I encouraged to go back home or seek out help from his dad (my brother). His male pride is extremely big. He did not want to admit defeat and look like a failure (his words, not mine.)
Ok, so. The problem is... we don't have a way to contact him. No mailing address since he couldn't afford to keep his apartment and was staying with a friend temporarily. He never had a land line. His cell phone service was cut off. He was borrowing his friend's cell phone for a little while. We've all tried leaving voice mails there for the last couple months and haven't heard anything back. He doesn't have an employer we can check with since he's unemployed as far as we know. He's pretty close with one of his brothers and he hasn't even heard from him. I checked myspace and facebook to see if he has a profile, but no luck. To make matters worse, he has a very common name so it isn't easy to pin-point. We've all emailed him - afterall, he could check that from a public library if need be - but he hasn't replied at all. My brother lives out of state and is very worried that something has happened to him. My elderly dad went driving around the city of his last known residence, looking for him. I don't know if we should file a missing persons report or what! Are there some other avenues to check that I'm not thinking of?? I feel like he could be in "hiding" of his own will, due to feeling shame possibly. I hope he didn't do something crazy.