Early retirement is my plan for Mr. SoCal. But it is not his plan for himself. I've encountered a "problem" which I did not foresee. He actually likes his work. He finds it meaningful. He does not want to stop even if he can. (WTF?) His work plays an instrumental role in protecting our nation. Due to his skills and experience, he is not an easily-replaced person. I do understand and respect that. He has an important job to do. I get it. Sometimes I do feel like I play second fiddle to his work (gulp.) I don't think he loves his job more than me. But I do think for men, it is MUCH more difficult for them to hang up their hat than it is for a woman. For many men, their identity is so closely tied to "what they do" rather than who they are. It can be a pride issue. I've known many men who sank into a deep depression once they retired because they "lost" their "identity". Not all do. But many. Will I let him work forever & draw his last breath at his desk? I dunno about that. I don't think so. ??? From what I hear from men who enjoy retirement -- the key is staying active! You can't stop living. You have to get out of bed, get dressed, and go enjoy life.